Let People Be Who They Are: Acceptance not Tolerance

I have often heard people say about someone else, that person must be gay because of certain traits. Most often I have heard this from people who are gay. Isn't this perpetuating stereotypes? Even if the person in question is LGBTQ he/she should not be forced out of the closet. We cannot tell by looking at someone what their sexual orientation is. If a person is seen having sex with another person of the same gender then his/her claim of exclusively heterosexual becomes questionable. I knew a man who claimed to be straight, but he had difficulty ejaculating when masturbating unless he was watching gay porn and being fucked in the ass. I felt bad for him, because he could not accept who he was. As their is a spectrum of sexual orientations there is a spectrum of characteristics within those sexual orientations. I know there are some very masculine gay men, Why could there also be feminine heterosexual men? If the person does happen to be gay but having difficulty dealing with that we need to lovingly help to accept themselves. When I was coming to terms with being gay some of the out gay guys at school made me feel very uncomfortable with some of their jokes. I do not thing they meant to hurt me. They were just being open with who they were. I just was not ready yet to go to take that step. It was not until I met people who gently helped me to accept who I was that I was able to start being open about who I am. No one should be forced to take a step in their lives before they are ready to do so. I do have issues with people who are closeted and take actions that harm the LGBTQ communities. There have been public figures who were closeted while taking a very strong anti-gay stance. I dream of a day when sexual orientation and gender identity are no lo longer issues. We need to help each other to be truly who we are. I would draw the line at political or religious views that include the harming of any group of people. I believe in the acceptance of different kinds of people not just the tolerance of diversity.